Let’s face it. No matter how great you thought you’d be at this thing called parenting, you’ve made mistakes. Lots of them. Have you ever thought before, “Oh, no! What if I’m totally messing up my kids!”?
The good news is God can redeem absolutely anything. He is bigger than your mistakes. In fact, if you let Him, He’ll even make something beautiful out of them. 1 Peter 4:8, Romans 8:28. Especially if you use your mistakes as a chance to demonstrate before your children HUMILITY.
The fact that you mess up isn’t a surprise to anyone but you, by the way. Everyone who knows you has seen just how human you are. And that pride that leads you to mess up (and then deny your mess) is also of this world.
But humility, … now, that is Heavenly. That is SUPER POWERED by the Love Who lives within you. 1 John 1:9-10, 4:7-21.
Your little warrior you’re raising up to walk in the Light will need that humility, as well. 1 John 1:7. It’s not enough to just teach your children about being humble. They need to see you do it.
- Admit your mistakes. Don’t hide. Don’t excuse. Don’t blame. The best way to miss what God’s showing you is to deny you have a problem or point your finger at someone else. As much as you’d like to think you’re right all the time, you’re just not. In fact, sometimes that little warrior is going to know God’s heart before you do on a matter. So,
- Listen. Before you shoot off an angry reply, before you say “no,” before you talk over your child to make some point, before you tell her what she should feel, … listen to what’s going on in her heart. And then
- Pray. Ask the Lord how He sees the situation. Pray about it together with your children, or say something like, “Hold on a moment while I ask Jesus what He wants to do.” So many times, as I prayed that prayer and those eager little faces watched in anticipation of what He would say, Jesus showed me where I was wrong and how to make it right.
- Whenever you mess up, lose your temper, don’t listen, make an unjust or selfish decision, etc., ask forgiveness.
“I was wrong. Please forgive me,” will be some of the most powerful words your children will ever hear from you.
- Serve others. Serve your spouse. Serve your children. With a heart full of joy, and without complaining.
Don’t just tell your kids to be nice, model it. They need to see you do it. When you wake up in the morning, rather than just thinking about all the things you need to get done, ask the Lord what He wants you to do to bless your kids or your spouse or your neighbors. If God urges you to help a neighbor, look for ways you can take your children along and give them tasks to help as well.
And if you’d like the Lord to do a deeper work in you for oneness with Him and with your family, try Dare to Become a Kingdom Culture Leader, Volume One and Volume Two, Dare to Be a Mighty Warrior and Delight to Be a Woman of Wonder.